Tuesday, July 21, 2009

Only gets better from here. {?}

Lolly, diagnosed with 5ths Disease.

5ths Disease, a result of Parvovirus B19, which has some risks for pregnant women, if they contract it.

I am not pregnant, but my sister is.

And so after a long afternoon of information-gathering, 1st, 2nd, 3rd opinions, conversations, logic vs. gut-reaction, praying, tears and feelings of "This is NOT FAIR!", our much-anticipated family reunion has been altered.

My sister is opting to avoid the potential risks associated with possible exposure to 5ths Disease, and she and her family will not be there when our Sam gets off the plane.

Lolly is happy as a clam with her rashy self. Hard to believe that the effect's of this skin disease could be so harmful to an unborn fetus. I am devastated and cautiously tiptoeing around the hole that is in my heart at the thought of their absence.

To console myself, I turned my attention to our family photograph that I have been planning literally for weeks now, and emailed the photographer to let her know the session has gone from 12 down to 4. Turns out, she's pregnant too.

A break? Anyone got one? Arms open, ready to catch...


17 comments:

margo said...

I'm so sorry to hear that. Nope....it's just not fair...no matter how much we kick and scream.

teamZ said...

I am so sorry. It is best Linz avoids Lolly. One my friend's had a miscarriage after her son exposed her to Fifth's disease.

(I didn't know Linz was pregnant. Congrats to her!)

Alisa said...

ugh- I kept waiting for you to update after seeing your tweet, but was not sure what you were talking about.
So so sorry.

kj said...

When our son's return date ( from 2 year Australian Mission) was firm, our lemon was that Scott had to be out of the country not returning until the following day. I was broken hearted. Not one thing could be done about it. After paying for your son's mission, missing him, living it through letters, you can imagine the disappointment that festered in our family. We ended up making the lemon into lemonade by arranging for a limo to pick us all up for the ride home & then Taylor greeted his Dad at the airport when Scott returned the next day. I can feel your pain. Hopefully you can plan a way to make lemonade.

RN said...

Most pregnant women have been previously exposed to 5th disease and don't know it, especially if they have small children themselves. You may consider having your sister have blood work the will test for a previous exposure and show immunity. Usually after the rash develops the risk of being contagious has passed. Just a thought that may allow for a the family reunion after all.
RN

Catherine said...

sorry to hear this Kristy........just said to my sis last night, seems like bads news all around with us and it seems with you too! I know how much you were looking forward to seeing your brother w/ your sister there.........sending a little "support" & a hug from Orlando to you!
catherine & paige

Anonymous said...

I agree with RN. I worked at a middle school when I was pregnant with my first child, when there was a breakout of Fifths Disease. Your sister ought to check with her OB - they usually screen for exposure during prenatal bloodwork. If she has already been exposed, she should be ok.

Linz said...

RN and Anonymous,
I'm getting the bloodwork done today. Results take 5-7 days. Trust me I've explored every option and gathered as much info. as I've been able to.

NTG said...

To tag on to my wifes comments, the issue is not Lolly being contagious but the rest of the family who was exposed to her, especially her sister. I find it interesting that so many people find it "OK" to put an unborn baby at risk in a situation that could otherwise be avoided. There are enough unknowns in the process of pregnancy and birth that to introduce the opportunity for further complications is just ridiculous. I compare it to holding a rattlesnake in front of your face and hoping that it won't bite. Why even pick up the rattlesnake? I understand people are just trying to be helpful but yes, we have made a very educated, logical decision that I am sure the majority of people would agree with.

Kage said...

NTG, no one is attacking your decision, everyone wants the baby to be ok.

NTG said...

I dont feel attacked, I am just clearing the air.

cali said...

Sounds totally sefish that YOU will still be there with your sick kid and your sister gets to stay home when the problem is in YOUR family.....you totally should feel bad. No question.

LMT said...

Sorry friend. It is great that Lolly is feeling well and I am SURE that you will have a wonderful time with your family. I am so excited for you. Enjoy!

Kage said...

cali, I am pretty sure my sister and her husband are concerned about the other sister, Phoeobe and her being contagious. Unfortunately she arrived to my parents house a day before us and "contiminated" the home where we are all staying. I have not included every single detail in this post, but that definitely influenced their decision. No matter what, she needed a place to stay and I needed to come pick her up. My sister views us all as carriers, even though I am pretty sure Phoebe has already had it, so we couldn't avoid crossing paths because of these travel plans already in motion--literally Phoebe was on the plane when this all went down.

Furthermore, it is very impossible to know if you are being exposed to parvo, especially since one doesn't know one has it until the rash appears, after it's already done incubating. A pregnant woman would therefore need to quarantine herself her entire pregnancy to avoid this one risk. This is why the CDC advises women to NOT avoid day care centers etc.

Both of my daughters are healthy, there is no reason for me not to come to a family reunion. My sister is choosing to be super/extra cautious, and that is her prerogative. If I were pregnant, right now, I would just have to tell my doctor and check the baby for anemia via ultrasound.

When you are carrying a human being, you have to make hard choices. This was a hard decision she had to make. Life happens and we are sorely missing her and her family right now.

NTG said...

One more clarification, we are not being "super/extra cautious", we are just being smart.

HHRose said...

Hey, Kristy, totally feel free to delete this. Cali, you're a jerk. Go away.

Well, I feel better.

Hugs to you and the fam.

(WV: "Smenita:" a great name for Linz if it's a girl! ;o) )

Anonymous said...

5th's disease also poses a risk for the elderly - it's implicated in PMR